Friday, October 31, 2014

Halloween



On this Friday, millions of kids and adults will get a chance to be someone else as they celebrate Halloween.  A favorite character from a movie or TV show or book, a character from the past or a future yet not known, something crazy, something funny, something scary.  Who doesn't want to be someone else at some point in their life, even if it's only for a night?

Aaron, obsessed with Star Wars at the moment, decided on a Storm Trooper.  He would have rather been a Roger Roger Droid, but I was not able to find a costume and did not think I'd be able to make one.  We were lucky to find the Storm Trooper!  Most Star Wars costumes deal with the main characters, either Luke or Darth Vader.

Ben was a bit undecided this year, and he considered several possibilities.  Walking around the store, I could tell he was having a hard time deciding.  He almost went with the standard variation of the special agent theme.  He loves electronic gadgets and spy gear, and he is quite adept at putting them together and making electronics work.  But he fell in love with a parrot prop he saw, and so he went with the pirate.  I must say he had a charming costume, with an eye patch, a bandana, and of course his trusted companion sitting on his shoulder.  "Arrrgghh ... Give me some pirate booty!"

According to History.com, Halloween grew out of the ancient Celtic tradition of Samhain (pronounced sow-in).  Quoting the website:

The Celts, who lived 2,000 years ago in the area that is now Ireland, the United Kingdom and northern France, celebrated their new year on November 1. This day marked the end of summer and the harvest and the beginning of the dark, cold winter, a time of year that was often associated with human death. Celts believed that on the night before the new year, the boundary between the worlds of the living and the dead became blurred. On the night of October 31 they celebrated Samhain, when it was believed that the ghosts of the dead returned to earth. In addition to causing trouble and damaging crops, Celts thought that the presence of the otherworldly spirits made it easier for the Druids, or Celtic priests, to make predictions about the future. For a people entirely dependent on the volatile natural world, these prophecies were an important source of comfort and direction during the long, dark winter.


This, of course, is near the Fall equinox, the time of the year when there is exactly the same amount of night as there is day, a balance if you will.  From the fall equinox on, the days will become shorter as the nights get longer, all the way until the winter solstice, the shortest day of the year, which happens near Christmas.

The Christians co-opted the tradition, and November 1 eventually became All Saints Day, celebrating martyrs and saints before us.  Coming from a church with German roots, we would always celebrate Totenfest during this time, "festival of the dead," remembering those who had died.

But really, thinking about Fall and the falling of leaves, the "dying" all around us, what better day to think of the dead and ghosts?  And yet, we often have to experience some kind of "death," before we can really experience life.

On this Halloween, may God's blessing be upon you as you consider who else you might want to be.  May God protect our children tonight, and may this be a positive experience.  Perhaps you will remember a saint who helped you along the journey of your life.  Perhaps you need God's help to put a death to something in your life so you can start again.  Whatever the case, may the God of the living and the dead bless you and make God's presence known to you.

Ron Trimmer is pastor of Hope United, a new church in Georgetown, Texas.  Click here to visit Hope United’s website.

Friday, October 3, 2014

A Bike for Ben



Parenting is tough!  So many times I just have to throw my hands in the air and ask God, “Lord, please help me!  I’m pretty non-anxious person—easy going, respectful, and level-headed.  But my kids can infuriate me!  I’m laughing, because really this shows a level of intimacy and love that is profound.  But though my children can really make me angry by their behavior, I must say, it is amazing to me to witness their growth and development as beautiful children of God.  Being a parent is wonderfully fulfilling.  I would not give it up for anything!

So Ben has been having a tough time learning responsibility and the need to do well in school.  He does not always assert himself.  And let’s face it, at 8 years old, I’d rather be out playing with my friends, riding my bike, having all kinds of adventures that only kids can have, than doing homework!  Yuck!

And as an aside, especially with Hope United’s Focus on Education, I must say that way too much emphasis is put on assessment and tests.  I think Ben has more homework in 3rd grade than I ever had in high school.  I’m serious.  I personally think our whole education system needs an overhaul.  We should do more to nurture creativity, independent thought, self-motivation, and a love of learning.  I find all the tests and the teaching towards the test counter-productive.  Do we want our kids to be good test-takers or do we want them to succeed in life?  I don’t believe the two always align!

Back to Ben; he does struggle with staying focused on his work, and he sometimes has trouble starting something on his own.  He’s very bright, and I’m not sure I’ve ever met someone so observant.  He has the best perceptive skills of any person I know!  More than that, Ben is kind and sensitive, and I am very thankful for his gentle spirit.

To help motivate Ben, Jan and I came up with a plan.  He desperately needed a new bike.  He loves to play outside and ride his bike, and he needed a new one.  He also was struggling in school because he would not work on his homework and assert himself on his work.  And so we agreed with Ben that if he worked hard he could earn that bike.  We printed off a picture of a bike and then cut it up in several pieces.  Every time he received a good grade, he earned a piece of his bike.

Was this bribery?  Well, yes, I guess so.  I’ve always been against any notion of “paying for grades,” and here I go and set up this bike scheme!  The goal, of course, is to get Ben to want to do well in school for himself and for the inherent benefit of learning, not just because he gets a bike.

I think dividing the bike into pieces was the key.  Ben saw his progress.  He got excited every time he got a new piece.  His work ethic improved greatly because he was working on something over time.  And he was so proud when he finally got that last piece.

Of course, we had to go right after school to find Ben’s new bike!  Ben settled on a blue one with hand brakes.

And after we got it home, and he started to get on it, Ben turned to me and said, “Thank You.”  And I know that he meant it.

But Ben learned something more about life that day, about working on something over time to achieve a goal.  He also discovered that yes, he can do this work.  It might be hard some days, but with patience and perseverance and effort, things can be achieved.

And now the trick is for Ben to learn not to try and do well in school just for some material benefit like a new bike, but to do his best in school for the intrinsic worth of learning.

Ron Trimmer is pastor of Hope United, a new church in Georgetown, Texas.  Click here to visit Hope United’s website.